Help! I Can't Cum. Sure, I can make myself cum. Gimme a vibrator and a porno and I'm there. But when it comes time to play, I haven't found the man who can make me scream in ecstacy. I've been with men who were great at the oral sex thing, but it seems like they cave just before I get there. During intercourse, I've only cum once in my entire life. It's an experience that I'd love to have again. I'm a giver in the bedroom, and love to please my partner, but it would be nice to be with someone who could actually get me off.